Updated: Jul 18, 2020
Am I Good Enough?
This is one constant question, Michelle Obama, Former First Lady of the United States of America keeps asking herself in her memoir called Becoming. Reading this, the thought that comes up in our minds is: If presumably the most powerful lady on Earth constantly goes through this inner dilemma of whether she is good enough or not… then who are we? What are we supposed to do now?
Is she better than us? Is she just like us? What on Earth she can’t achieve?
Somewhere in the memoir, her mother puts it in the most simple way possible- ‘There is nothing special about Michelle and Barack, they are people just like us, just like you. Anybody can be them’.
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In life, there are times when we need reminders that we are enough. Taking care of oneself is a rather one-time consuming affair that most of us often ignore. Other priorities set in. Family, relationships, career, and something as simple as washing the laundry and boiling milk for coffee.
In the routine tasks of the day, what gets kicked out of the picture is time that we should keep for ourselves, to nurture our minds and bodies alike. We get so involved in the daily grind that even before we realize it, we become burnt-out, sad, and simply demotivated.
What we often don’t realize is how self-care is nothing but a cumulative set of activities that we should effortlessly fit into our daily routines before the monotony takes a grip over our souls and leaves us famished forever.
So, what do you do? The first simple thing is understanding:
What self-care is?
· Mood-boosting activities
· Centering yourselves
· Prioritizing your own needs
· Listening to your heart
· Knowing yourself and your purpose
· Not the same for each individual
What self-care is not?
· It is not being selfish
· It is not being unkind to other’s needs
· It is not pressurizing yourself
· It is not a social media fad
· It is not a one-time guilty pleasure
Now, where do you start?
The easiest way to begin is by creating your own self-care toolbox. This is the box you turn to when the world seems a little dull.
Step one: Make a list of things you really like to do. Things that instill joy and spark happiness.
Here’s a list to help you get started:
2. Grab a cup of coffee.
3. Go for a walk
4. Call your mom
5. Text your friends and ask them how they are
6. Practice 5-minute meditation
7. Sip your favorite tea. This chocolate tea blend with chocolate is both aromatic and calming for your nerves. A tea blend we always swear by.
8. Doodle. Pick up that pen now. Its like yoga on paper.
9. Journal 5 things you are grateful for.
10. Light your favorite candle. Inhale positivity, exhale clutter.
11. Take a break and play your favorite game
12. Munch a healthy snack. Yes, you can munch on lip-smacking snacks guilt-free.
13. Chant a mantra you believe in
14. Say a prayer for your loved ones
15. Indulge in some chocolate bites or hot chocolate.
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16. Put on your favorite jammies and read a page. We love the sleep wear range from this brand, both comfortable and quirky. Pair them with eye masks and you are good to go to a slumber party with yourself.
17. Write what’s going on your mind
18. Take a half & hour digital detox & put on your favorite face mask. If you planning to ditch the cosmetic grade, then try simpler kitchen ingredients like this oats-rose face mask which gives a clear glow and make the skin supple-soft, all homemade.
19. Put on a twistband and dance to your favorite tune. This tropical collection has our eyes and heart. Their prints would inspire you to get up and start your day like a boss babe. Now, no more bad hair days.
20. Hug someone, even a pillow would be magical. How about inhaling some calming fragrance as you hug your pillow or take a nap?
21. Make a salad
22. Clean your work desk
23. Create a playlist
24. Cry, it is okay.
25. Scroll through your camera gallery
26. Water a plant.
27. Make a travel list.
28. Take a shower. For a rejuvenating post-shower glow, try this coconut water & mimosa blend with zero carbon footprint. Cruelty-free, guilt-free, vegan, and recyclable, with oh-so-good fragrance. Your little step in your shower could make the planet greener and oceans clearer.
29. Soak in some natural vitamin D
30. Write your career goals.
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Step Two: Know when you need to take care of yourself and devote time to doing the same.
Step Three: Stay committed to loving yourself.
Self-care is a combination of your physical, emotional, spiritual, and social well-being. Choose your top FIVE go-to activities or objects. Compile them in a physical box if possible or create reminders on your phone for the same. It could be a mix of easy tasks and a few things that you really have to put effort into. In the end, it will be all worth it.
So, the next time you ask yourself, Am I good enough?
Grab on to your self-care toolbox and say out loud- YES, I AM!